I used to think online dating wasn’t for me. And it still isn’t. I gave myself every single good excuse not to do it. But guess what? Nothing changed in my love life either.
I needed a change or my epitaph would read: she died under-fucked and unpublished. Really, I couldn’t have that.
So I decided to grab my love life by the balls (pun sooooo intended) and made a profile.
By the time I was swiping away, it felt like an adventure in a 3rd world country, all the unfamiliar eyes staring at me, my swipes mostly tending towards “no way’s.”
Eventually, I actually got matches, chatted with maybe 30 guys, literally felt like I dated all of them (an empathic introverts cross to bear) and finally I met two men in person.
Drum roll.
The first guy I met was one of the more awkward 47 minutes I had had in a while. The second guy, well now that’s turned out to be a good story. (stay tuned for that one on my next nano-blog!)
While I didn’t find what I was looking for on tinder, I did happen to find exactly what I needed. I wonder how often we might not recognize that the experience in front of us (no matter what that might be) is exactly that which helps us get further. Don’t we all wear glasses that filter our day to day experiences with what we already think “should” happen (for good and bad), as opposed to watching the story unfold as we go?
What’s wrong with finding what we’re not looking for? Nothing.
If you want something new you have to do something new. Remember, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result, so do something different!
Have you been wanting to make a change? Write your own epitaph!
(Anatomical Heart Image from a Vintage Science Book circa 1884, The Graphics Fairy)